Selfish People Make Better Lovers
When you're good in your own skin, you're good with everyone else's skin!
Love. I just love love, don’t you? It’s the one thing we all have in common; we all want it.
The rules of love are quite different than other gadgets around us. We hunt deer, catch fish, trap rodents, hoard savings, keep records and tie down luggage. Try any of those tactics with love and you’ll be eating Friday night pizza by yourself!
We can’t catch love, own love or even keep it. Love is like a cat in your lap. Just feed it and enjoy it. But the second you try and manipulate that cat to stay…zzzoom! It’s gone.
Now, I know you probably came to this page looking for some really sticky romantic stuff. And I’m about to hit you with it. But it might not look quite like what you were expecting. So, here we go…
You must first have it to give it. You cannot give what you don’t have. When your love for yourself overflows, you’ll then have plenty to give to your partner or friend. When you are “good in your own skin,” the love that you give will require no payback.
Here’s the big trophy that comes with self-love. When you get right with yourself, when you become truly content with who you are, guess what happens then? You’ll no longer need others to provide your happiness or affirm your value or worth. Then you don’t have to try so darn hard! You can just be you! Whoa! Did you get that?
You’ve probably heard the term “Everything is relative.” Here’s the mother of relativity:
Your success with everything and
everyone in life is directly relative
to how you feel about yourself.
HERE’S A FLIP FOR YOU: The best thing you can do for your relationship is to fall madly in love with yourself. There ya go! And I’m not even gonna charge you for that! Let me explain how that works.
When I’m OK with me, then I no longer expect you to be or do what I need you to be or do. I don’t need you to supply my worth because I already have it!
I’m OK with myself, then I’m OK with you being exactly who you are, no change required. OMG this is HUGE!
I’ll go so far as to say that, until I love myself, I cannot purely love you. Because my “love” for you will be saddled with an agenda.
It’s extra credit time! I’m going to leave you with a humdinger. Ready?
If you want intimacy, real intimacy, you won’t find it from expensive jewelry or that trip to Italy you’ve always wanted to take. Oh, sure, you can stir some romance from these things. But intimacy? Well now, thrives when you choose to reveal your adorable, authentic self. Yep, I’m talking vulnerable! Oh my!
Here, put this one in your pipe and smoke it: Intimacy is
INTO ME SEE
Love. It’s a big subject! Too big for this page for sure. Send me a not and let’s talk more. I think you’ll enjoy my book SIZZLE SECRETS. Grab a copy if you haven’t already. Also, enjoy my sound bite below.
To stir, incite and inspire those whose paths I cross, inviting folks to live life with the vitality and full-color gusto our Maker had in mind for each of us the moment we came outta that oven.
I see marriages being healed, dreams and family values being reborn and restored. I see an awakening as folks begin to remember who they are and WHOSE they are. Yes! I claim that vision.
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My Prayer for You
Lord open the ears, eyes and hearts of each friendly visitor here that they might catch a glimpse of You and the bodaciously abundant life you have in store for each of us. Help us each to hear your whispers, see your miracles and feel your nudges. Amen.